Am I doing enough? What does my teen need to learn before he is grown and gone? What have I failed to teach him or her? Am I doing this parenting thing right? Do you find yourself asking any of these questions?
Have your teen take this simple test!
Once they are done score the total number of assets they feel they have experienced. The research has shown that kids or teens who score between 31-40 Assets are the least likely to engage in Problem Alcohol Use, Illicit Drug Use, Sexual Activity and Violence. In addition, they are more likely to Succeed in School, Value Diversity, Maintain Good Health and Delay Gratification.
The 40 developmental assets protect teens from problem attitudes and behavior but also encourages positive attitudes and behaviors!
And what teen couldn’t use a behavior and attitude readjustment every once in a while!?!
What is your teen’s score? Maybe not as high as you would like it to be? Use this asset list to plan experiences, to guide you as you continue to parent your teens! Use this list as a source of inspiration and confirmation that you are on the right track. Parenting is hard and there is no right or wrong way to do it. This list can give you focus, a goal, or simply peace of mind.
40 Assets for Teens (Check the ones that are true)
⃝1. I receive high levels of love and support from my family.
⃝2. I can go to my parents or guardians for advice and support and have frequent in-depth conversations with them.
⃝3. I know other non parent adults I can go to for advice and support.
⃝4. My neighbors support and encourage me.
⃝5. My school provides a caring, encouraging environment.
⃝6. My parent(s) are actively involved in helping me succeed in school.
⃝7. I feel valued by the adults in my community.
⃝8. I am given useful roles in my community.
⃝9. I serve in the community one hour or more per week.
⃝10. I feel safe at home, school, and in the neighborhood.
⃝11. My family has clear rules and consequences for my behavior and knows my whereabouts.
⃝12. My school provides clear rules and consequences.
⃝13. Neighbors take responsibility for monitoring my behavior.
⃝14. Parent(s) and other adults model positive, responsible behavior.
⃝15. My best friends model responsible behavior.
⃝16. Both parent(s) and teachers encourage me to do well.
⃝17. I spend three or more hours per week in lessons or practice in music, theater, or other arts.
⃝18. I spend three or more hours per week in sports, clubs, or organizations at school and/or in the community.
⃝19. I spend one or more hours per week in a religious service or participating in spiritual activities.
⃝20. I go out with friends “with nothing special to do” two or fewer nights per week.
⃝21. I want to do well in school.
⃝22. I am actively engaged in learning.
⃝23. I am doing at least one hour of homework every school day.
⃝24. I care about my school.
⃝25. I read for pleasure three or more hours per week.
⃝26. I believe it is really important to help others.
⃝27. I really want to promote equality and reduce hunger and world poverty.
⃝28. I can stand up for what I believe.
⃝29. I tell the truth even when it is not easy.
⃝30. I can accept and take personal responsibility.
⃝31. I believe it is important not to be sexually active or to use alcohol or other drugs.
⃝32. I am good at planning ahead and making decisions.
⃝33. I am good at making friends.
⃝34. I know and am comfortable with people of different cultural/racial/ethnic backgrounds.
⃝35. I can resist negative peer pressure and dangerous situations.
⃝36. I can resolve conflict nonviolently.
⃝37. I believe I have control over many things that happen to me.
⃝38. I feel good about myself.
⃝39. I believe my life has a purpose.
⃝40. I am optimistic about my future.
Check out the Search Institute for a copy of this survey along with many others!