Some days it’s really hard to see the positives and beauty of having a teenager. So today on this day of Thanksgiving, I pause to share my gratitude for these very moody creatures that have moved into my home and are doing an amazing job of wreaking havoc on our once calm, predictable life.
I am thankful my teenagers sleep in! This morning I had to drag them out of bed and battle three sleepy, annoyed, angry, irritable beasts who wanted one more hour. There is a high probability that they will be useless in getting the house, food or mood ready for our company. But I remember the days we were up at 6:20 Every. Single. Morning. No matter how late we were up these sweet babies would wake up at 6:20 with the energy of a freight train! So yes. Today I am thankful they sleep in!
I am thankful my teenagers tell me when I look hideous. They always have an opinion about fashion and I am glad they keep me somewhat in line. Teens are at the height of their youth, vigor, beauty, and strength. I cherish knowing they are healthy today. And even though they tell me daily that they will buy whatever they want when they are a grown up, I know they will never have more financial support than they do now. Enjoy those UGG boots now kiddos because you won’t be able to afford them on your salary!
I am thankful my teens have big dreams and are so confident that all of their dreams are within reach! They encourage me to keep dreaming too! If he can open a laser tag/go carting business I can surely follow my dream of learning to bake a pumpkin cheesecake!
I am thankful that my teens are intense. They ride the roller coaster of emotions daily. When they are happy everyone is happy. When they are sad everyone is sad. They can love me one minute and be horribly irritated by me the next. But without the downs I wouldn’t have the ups. And I love the ups!
I am thankful my teenagers keep going. Even after what seems like tragedy after tragedy, world crisis after world crisis these teenagers keep wanting more from life. They want to make a difference. They want to travel. They want to stay up all night so they don’t miss any exciting thing. They keep going. They have energy and are ready to tackle the world.
I am thankful my teenagers are so stinking smart with technology! My teenagers can literally answer any question I have about technology. And they can operate the TV remote control!!! What am I going to do when I want to watch TV and they are all gone in college??
I am thankful that teenagers challenge me to think differently. Up until now it has been me being the boss and me being in charge of all decisions. I welcome them challenging me. OK, that’s a lie. But I try to remember that when they challenge me it helps me to grow and change and that will help me be ready to let my kids go. The launching of teens is not easy for teens or those who love them. The challenges and the new ideas and fresh perspective help me to grow too. So hopefully I can be ready when they are ready. Hopefully.
I am thankful teenagers have taught me patience and force me to believe the old adage that tomorrow is a new day. That helps me to know beyond any doubt that someday these teenagers will grow up to be kind, decent, human beings who will be amazing people!
What are you thankful for?
Joy Hartman is a family therapist in Wisconsin who has worked with teenagers and their families for over twenty years. She now has the unique pleasure of raising three teenagers of her own! Joy helps teens and parents find their own unique strengths and talents to make the complicated journey to adulthood one filled with support, love and little bit of humor!
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